On , 康熙来了9/1/2015, they talked about teenage mums. They invited about eight teenagers and talked about their motherhood. I was very shocked that most of them were under twenty. Most of them have unplanned pregnancy and luckily those girls’ partners were happy to take the responsibility by marrying them. However, kids having kids is becoming an increasing issue. One of the girl even spoke out that during her pregnancy, there were four other girls were pregnant too. I know many of you might think, you will not send your kids to that school. Again, do we blame the school or parents? many of the girls already dated few guys and how do we know that they were all protected sex?
I really do not think this should be a blaming game, we should all work together to reduce this and ensure kids have their best time. There were about three girls were happy to be a parents at young age. We also need to take into consideration most of their parents have them very young age and for them, it is acceptable.
Having kids at very young age do have some benefits such as your kids normally have a better rapport as the social barriers is normally lower. Parents can normally understand their kids better as parents often do not act authoritarian. They can normally behave like brothers and sisters instead of parents and children. Parents more likely can match their children’s energy level.
However, there are more consequences for having kids too young. Many of them have to give up their schoolings or attending school in shame due to their pregnancy. Due to the fact, they have to give up their schoolings, often their jobs are not paying well in the current society where certificate of graduation does matter. Some of the young parents also under lots of pressure, they sometimes blame the kids that they could not go out and have fun with their peers. However, if you do let them go out, they might still be guilty for having so much fun without their kids. Those girls also pointed out, when they were out with their peers, their expectations are very different. Their peers might talk about job, boyfriend and fun things and they mostly talk about looking after kids.
I have to say that I was happy that most of them have their parents or grandparents to help them look after the kids but there are many single parents out there are doing it very hard. It is harder being a single parent as an adult let alone a child.
What could us as adults do? I am sure many of the parents have warned them on young pregnancy and problems. Most of them they still wont listen. Should we encourage more sex education at school then? However, the last time I check, talking about it is still a taboo at school. Sex education at school is not adequate to stop unplanned pregnancy. We also have so many movies glorifies unplanned pregnancy on teenagers, remember Juno? Parents need to talk to their kids about sex education too. It should not be left to the school to deal with it.
Many of us might not want this to happen but looking at the rate of increasing teenage’s pregnancy, it is better to prevent. One of the father was chasing his girl’s boyfriend and hit him with a bat. I am sure many of us do not want the parents end up killing the children for having unplanned sex. That father must be very sad but do anyone wants to see him in jail? No.
So we really need to increase awareness of sexual education, not only against pregnancy but also against STD. I would really hate that some of the girls were forced into sexual intercourse by their boyfriends. We need to empower girls education. It is very important for girls to know when and how to say ‘NO’ and protect themselves too. Boys can also be taught to respect girls when they say no. I remember there was an Youtube video on violence against women by asking those boys to slap the girl. This is another reason why, we need to teach both genders children to respect themselves and each others.